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What are your thoughts on sex before marriage? Is that the way things should be, or do you think it should be saved until after marriage? Why?
I don't believe in saving sex for after marriage. If I look at my own parents' marriage, it's a perfect example of what I mean. They're totally not fit for one another and aren't happy with one another (which is mainly my father's fault, but that's beside the point ¬.¬).
Marriage doesn't automatically guarantee that that will be the person you will forever love and want to be with. At first you may think it is...but it's not a guarantee. My parents have divorced after 20+ years of marriage, for example, and look how many people get divorced today...
You can find your true love without having to marry them, and in my opinion, as long as you truly love that someone, married or not, sex is okay. It's the ultimate form of intimacy and trust in my opinion.
Brindley
09-05-2006, 00:53
I believe that once a couple both agree and are happy with it, then sex is okay. So long as one half doesn't feel pressured into it, and it's a mutual decision, then it doesn't matter whether the couple is married or not.
I also believe sex and making love to be two completely different things. Sex is something done for personal pleasure and gain. Making love is the physical act of the emotional trust and intimacy that a couple can share. Sex is something people go to nightclubs looking for, and whilst I don't feel comfortable with it, I don't have a problem with other people doing it. Making love is something that a couple does in a relationship after growing close together. It doesn't matter whether they're married or not in either case, just so long as they mutually agree to it.
Just my $0.02
Irrelevant
09-05-2006, 04:04
I believe that once a couple both agree and are happy with it, then sex is okay. So long as one half doesn't feel pressured into it, and it's a mutual decision, then it doesn't matter whether the couple is married or not.
I also believe sex and making love to be two completely different things. Sex is something done for personal pleasure and gain. Making love is the physical act of the emotional trust and intimacy that a couple can share. Sex is something people go to nightclubs looking for, and whilst I don't feel comfortable with it, I don't have a problem with other people doing it. Making love is something that a couple does in a relationship after growing close together. It doesn't matter whether they're married or not in either case, just so long as they mutually agree to it.
Just my $0.02
I agree with Brindley 110%.
its the exact same ideal i have of physical Love and Sex.
But lets face it, If you love someone enough to make love to them, then marrige is certainly not far from.
Its really just a person decision, theres no law against it (atleast to my knowledge), if a person wants to have sex, then good for them, if you are more old fashioned, then you'll probably save youself for someone you love.
I'm very much open to sex before marriage, and not because I'm a guy too now :P Basicly, its about trusting your partner and yourself, and if you love eachother enough, and BOTH feel ready for sex, then there's no stopping you I believe =P
Oh and...
Marriage doesn't automatically guarantee that that will be the person you will forever love and want to be with.
I just wanna add something to this. IMO I wouldnt marry someone I wouldn't really feel in love with, even if there is love, but no certainty in your heart that you want to stay with that person. I hope I'm making some sense here... lol
But yeh, like I said. :P
I agree with Brindley also, sex sounds nasty and cheap whereas, making love seems more passionate and emotional, like two people connecting more closely. Sex would be like the opposite.
But yeah, I don't think you should have sex/make love just cause your married. Not many people want to get married because of the fact mirae said, it doesn't always work out no matter if you love them alot there's still a chance, it's been proven life becomes different after marriage, don't see why it's just a piece of paper and a ring really, well it's more than that but that's the basic you'd think it make the relationship better, but most of the time it doesn't
i'm old fashioned. so i will wait for marrige.
Rusty2006
13-05-2006, 01:36
i'm old fashioned. so i will wait for marrige.
Why Rocky? Don't get me wrong buddy, but you seem pretty cool and all that jazz. My motto:IF a women ever wants to marry me, I'll bang her brains out before marriage, then marry her, with her consent though.
my reason is that i think if you have sex before marrige you are more likely to cheat on your wife because she may have not pleased you like before or like the other person.
Seraphis
18-05-2006, 12:15
As long as both have no regrets later on I dont see a problem.. The only thing is that one has to identify whether or not it is sex or making love.. As people have already pointed out, its two very different things altogether.
I suppose if I do make love, I am in a very intimate relationship with my partner and we both want to express the highest degree of love possible towards each other without pressure.
Gah! Back to studying >,< History A2 on Tuesday @@;;
it is both the same because you get down and dirty.
Brindley
18-05-2006, 21:44
No, they're not both the same, because they both have different meanings behind them. One is selfish, one is self-less.
Seraphis
19-05-2006, 03:43
Does it really matter if it is seen as 'getting some' or 'down and dirty'?
If it is going downtown to get a hooker or such, maybe it is. However there are no strings attached. You don't love the person do you? 90% of the time you don't even know the person. Not that I have a problem if anyone decides to do it.
If you are in a very intimate relationship, there will be a time when you may have to cross the line... as a sign to show your acceptance to your partner? There are many ways to see it and what I said may be one of them. I believe that there won't be much of a problem because the person you are so in love with will be your partner/soulmate for god knows how long. Its all about faith in you and your partner's part.
Sex is sex, sex doesn't need emotions, sex isi there to get off.
Making love is a connection, a connection that should only be felt between you and someone you love. Making love is more than sex, there is so much more onthe emotional and mental aspect on making love than there is to sex.
Sex before marriage is alright I say, people have sex it's what they do, sex is a common thing these days, it's just peopel exploring their primal urges and enjoying themselves in the way they want to.
Why wait for marriage to have sex? It's so old fashioned.
Especially now with all these sexual terms floating around, homosexual, lesbian, bisexual, asexual, monosexual, you could get married, have sex, and find out you're not sexually attracted to your new partner, how horrible would that be? I see nothing wrong with havign sex before marriage, sex is an experience, it helps you discover who you are.
Tharrick
19-05-2006, 15:16
Why Rocky? Don't get me wrong buddy, but you seem pretty cool and all that jazz.
So having premarital sex is 'cool'?
Then colour me uncool.
As a biologist, I know that the only real purpose of sex is to reproduce (note - this is a SCIENTIFIC point of view. I've had so much crap from people who think it's a religious one) and since I'm not in a position where I could care for or help care for a child, I don't intend to have sex.
and it should be done only in marriage.
Tharrick
20-05-2006, 20:44
Well, yeah, since that's usually the most stable position to be raising a child in.
i agree with that Tharrick.
I may be under 18 and therefore not classed as an adult so not a valid view, but my view is that sex before marriage is fine but depends entirely on the people involved and they should not be treated any differently just because they want to have sex before they're married.
true but after you reveal it people see you differently.
Blue Moon Dragoon
25-05-2006, 07:55
Im only 16, but I think that it is perfectly alright to have Sex before marrige. At the end of the day, people have thier own say in what they want and don't want to do.
LOL... this is really random. Anyway the point is... Oh perfect examle... Adam And Eve. Apparently (so says the bible) they were on the world first though, if they were then they would most certainly be more intellectually challenged then those who lived in the stone age. The thing I'm trying to explain is that they did not have marriage but they knew it was needed for the sake of mankind. Of course they could choose and when a male had a female lover you would have to fight to the death for her or leave. So thats wher marriage comes in... It's just a promise of truth because Adam and Eve were not married and they had sex obviously. So the bible would just be going against itself. You can love anybody at anytime and for a little or as long as you like. Just only if you know for the time you are spending with the one person you arent lying at all about anything because the pact of a relationship is the same of that in a marriage. Marriage is also just something to keep the population and society under control through the goverment.
Overall, I guess have sex... just not when you have promised something and then broken it in the time you are with them...
Only reason why I am saving myself for marriage is for the fact that losing your virginity is something special, and I'd rather give that up to the woman I am marrying than just some random chick.
That's all =/
Wow... being a virgin is great because it means that you are not a sheep like most people. Though... If you save it to long you may just miss the chance with the person that you were meant to be with. LOL! I was watching doctor Phil lol... errm anyway he said instead of finding someone with a 100% match in a whole lifetime, You should spend 1/4th of your life finding an 80% match and developing the 20% through relationship.
Brindley
29-05-2006, 00:22
being a virgin is great because it means that you are not a sheep like most people.
Erm, what? We're not in Wales here, bub. Seriously, not everyone has sex just to follow the crowd or conform with people, some people make love because they've found someone special and want to show them the highest form of intimacy they can.. nothing about conformity whatsoever!
well I did say most... and also I'm not in wales lol. I was actually meant to state that I was aiming at a specific age group. But that doesn't matter now because what you said is half true. But most people do just have sex just because it is another form of enjoyment.
shadowclone7
31-05-2006, 16:51
well from a religous piont of view it states that sex before marriage is a sin
even though I'm more of hell's angel than god's child but I still believe in this
less we forget that when they say you may kiss the bride thats when when you give your bodies to one another.
even though I think i should might bring this up
Dale Anthony
01-06-2006, 11:58
Erm, what? We're not in Wales here, bub. Seriously, not everyone has sex just to follow the crowd or conform with people, some people make love because they've found someone special and want to show them the highest form of intimacy they can.. nothing about conformity whatsoever!
Yeah, it's a shame however that "special" person usually dumps them or vice-versa and they've lost their virginity for nothing. It annoys me, the people I work with...pretty much all of them ain't virgins. (refering to the ones my 17-20)...probably cause they ended up with the wrong person and then got dumped and are now looking for someone else. So I wouldn't say it was that special someone exactly, Brindley but your point is valid.
shadowclone7
12-06-2006, 16:46
Marriage doesn't automatically guarantee that that will be the person you will forever love and want to be withwell marriage is something that when two people who love each other what to get a bond that will last forever isn't that what marriage is
a_nirvana_fan
13-06-2006, 20:13
I dont see whats SO bad about having sex before marriage, if both people want to do it, then let them.
I dont see whats so bad about sex, I havent took part in sex but I guess it makes you feel loves, happy and satisfied, isnt that a good thing?
Dale Anthony
13-06-2006, 23:50
I dont see whats SO bad about having sex before marriage, if both people want to do it, then let them.
I dont see whats so bad about sex, I havent took part in sex but I guess it makes you feel loves, happy and satisfied, isnt that a good thing?
Maybe so...but I'm a virgin and I'll admit...I hate it. Everyone I know isn't and this whole "Your time will come thing" makes me sick. I may aswell give up waiting and join a mile high club. Most people don't have sex for a proper reason. That's why I don't really like it. I mean, I'd be happy to have sex...but without a proper reason. It's not worthwhile wasting...
Seraphis
14-06-2006, 06:02
Well.. ^^;; its pointless to do it for the sake of doing it. Better to have someone to share it with no? ^^
Dale Anthony
14-06-2006, 12:54
Well.. ^^;; its pointless to do it for the sake of doing it. Better to have someone to share it with no? ^^
Well, that's true but the thing is alot of people these days aren't virgins because they did it for the sake of doing it. It's annoying cause sex is supposed to be enjoyed by two people in love. Don't get me wrong, alot of people probably were "in love" at the time of doing it but really...did they have sex at the right time in that relationship? If that's the case...why are they single now and not virgins?
Seraphis
14-06-2006, 16:40
did they have sex at the right time in that relationship? If that's the case...why are they single now and not virgins?
Beats me ^^;; I suppose no one is perfect when timing is concerned.
As for me, yeah, I wouldnt mind sharing it with the person I really love but Im not in a hurry myself. Doesnt matter if Im 19 or 30 years old for that matter and still a virgin. As long as I am happy and contented, others can say all they want for all I care ^^v Teasing me for being a virgin still? Haha! Well tough for you. Thats my kind of character.
Dale Anthony
15-06-2006, 13:47
Beats me ^^;; I suppose no one is perfect when timing is concerned.
As for me, yeah, I wouldnt mind sharing it with the person I really love but Im not in a hurry myself. Doesnt matter if Im 19 or 30 years old for that matter and still a virgin. As long as I am happy and contented, others can say all they want for all I care ^^v Teasing me for being a virgin still? Haha! Well tough for you. Thats my kind of character.
Well...it's not what people say that bothers me...it's my fear that...well, by the time I get round to it, the girl I'm with (probably would have had loads of sex) won't enjoy it with me. Yeah...it's a stupid fear but well...that's why I worry. I want a girl to enjoy what I do with her and if it's just not enough, I'd just feel a waste of time.
Rusty2006
05-07-2006, 03:00
Hey its the person's choice. Come on, its not like its a crime or anything. Kids younger than me do it all the time, its diffrent, but look at this way. At least its not illegal.
Hey its the person's choice. Come on, its not like its a crime or anything. Kids younger than me do it all the time, its diffrent, but look at this way. At least its not illegal.
That depends where you are. If you were in America, under 17 years old, if you have sex with a minor, it's considered rape. So that's illegal. Not sure what it's like in England but I'm positive that at earlier teenager years its deffinetly illegal. In Holland there is litterally almost no control over sex, its sick. >_> But yeah, that depends where you are. =X
Holland doesnt need control over sex, they hardly have any, they really never have any underage pregnancies, like england does or any other country. Holland are more mature than us you could say, never has been any need for Holland to create a rule, and people here just do it because its illegal and fun. sad, but oh well..
Holland doesnt need control over sex, they hardly have any, they really never have any underage pregnancies, like england does or any other country. Holland are more mature than us you could say, never has been any need for Holland to create a rule, and people here just do it because its illegal and fun. sad, but oh well..
Uhh. People in holland start having sex at the average age of 12-13 =o We have a load of under-age pregnancies over in Holland, its even considered you are mentally retarded if you have not have had sex at the age of 16. o_O Its crazy! Oh and drugs is being used as well at that same age, such as the use of the pill etc. and the pharmacies over in Holland very easily subscribe the use of the pill as well, AND I have to add that abortion IS allowed for under-age people in Holland! To say they hardly have sex underage is not quite true, there are alot of under-age parents in Holland, believe it or not o-o They disobey the rules just like they do in England I'm sure, and I'm also very positive its just as bad in England, could be worse, I dont know but, judging from that I've seen, all I said is true about Holland. =X It's sad really though, that it's such a major influence in the netherlands(I Dont know what its like for england, so I wont say anything about england =P), thank God I moved away when I was just born xD But yeah =\
Angel's Trident
06-07-2006, 13:47
I think sex before marriage shouldn't be a big deal I mean come on ... we're one of the rare species that actually do it for pleasure. Having sex is good only until you do just for the sake of it. And being a virgin shouldn't be such a BIG DEAL it's really cool that you are and people shouldn't judge you just because they think you can't get any. And for those who aren't virgins ... wow great for you, you got laid, congratulations blablabla... it's not that big of a deal to have sex any way. Usually first times are awkward and sometimes and not as it's portrayed in films, even if it is with someone you really love and care about.
Rusty2006
13-07-2006, 03:17
I meant people who are eighteen or older, should not be forced into marriage if they are having intercourse. Sorry, I am to blame. Its like buying manga, would you buy volume two or one if you have not read it yet?
Simple you know?
I for one don't believe in sex before marriage. I don't care if I'm 14, but I have a voice too right? I just think that sex is more meaningful if it's done with someone you really love and not just because you don't want to lose your virginity.
Exchange x Heat
19-07-2006, 17:11
I know I'm joining this conversation a little late, but the issue is that sex isn't as sacred as people try to make it out to be. That sounds bad, but it's the truth. Sex is not a relationship staple. Plenty of people have waited until marriage, while plenty haven't. Groups from both sides have been happy, and groups from both sides have been miserable.
I'm against sex with randoms, people you don't trust, and people you don't know. There comes a point in a relationship when sex is okay: when you trust the other person enough. Even when you trust them enough to have sex, it doesn't mean that it's necessary.
Thirteenth Catastrophe
25-09-2006, 03:26
We only have one life.
Why chastise ourselves from experience for the sake of meaningless preaching?
Personally, what I think to be more important is to use caution and safety, to reduce the risk of disease or unwanted pregnancy.
I pretty much believe that a person can do whatever they want in their life, and they will just suffer the consequences accordingly - whether that be financial difficulties as both partners cannot afford to take care of a child or whatever. I think it has just been common sense to think of getting married before having children due to the who financial security aspect. But just having sex for pleasure before marriage isn't wrong.
shadowclone7
25-09-2006, 18:48
well sex before marrige could be caused out of lust or presure I guess it depends according to your temptation or will Idon't stand on either side for the moment tho
i think that its the couples choice to have sex before marriage or wait till they marry
99025451
24-10-2006, 18:31
a think that there's no problem on this, becuse, if the couple want, even god can't make something
Peace
Nonix Dark
26-10-2006, 10:41
Well since I don't believe in rules created by humanbeings (I mean.. have God REALLY told YOU that you may not have sex before marriage? or have you just heard it from the people around you;)?)I don't see marriage as anything else but a traditional ceremony where you celebrate and prove your love with your fiance to your your friends and relatives. Sex is not a divine thing in my eyes.. Well it is a nice, beautiful and very nice way of satisfying a human need.. Yes it is a human need (Well there are those who claim that they don't need it... But let's say like this.. a person can become ill only by believing it).. Nothing more.. It's there because of nature itself.. Without it we would have been dead a long time ago since we wouldn't be able to make babies.. It's natures way.. that also explains why monks shouldn't be allowed to have sex:P
yes I believe in sex before marriage since I don't believe in marriage as a divine thing given to us by God=)
EDIT: Also! Just because I believe in having sex before marriage I don't tell you to just roam around having sex just like that.. I prefer and believe in having sex with the one you love.. But marriage have nothing to do with it..
Well i dont see that in this day and time, the younger generation just have minds of there own and no one is going to tell them what to do, it would be an improved relationship if the couples did wait, also gives them time to really know who they are getting together with before they take on sex which is supose to be a specoal bond, especialy if your planning on marriage with that one person.
yeah.. the younger generation (ie... mine) are completely rampant. especially the charvs... screwing anything with a pulse...
HIV and gonnorhea for all!
Tharrick
18-11-2006, 01:46
If all the chavs in the world got HIV, the world would be a better place :P
XD Actually, this threads reminds me of a little sketch I saw on MAD TV when these idiot parents actually encourage their daughter (who was play by Avril Lavigne) to have sex before marriage since [her parents] actually waited AFTER they got married. They told their daughter that it would ruin her life and that's pretty funny...
...Ahem. Anyway, since I'm too young and busy to worry about sex and girls (no offense), all I have to say is be wise and do what you think is right. Sure have all the hot sex you want but be sure that you're prepared for what's going to happen. Yeah...
Razorblade Kiss
28-05-2007, 17:36
Sex is a beautiful thing when practiced with someone you genuinely care about.
This can happen before a marriage, or after. I believe in having sex with people you genuinely care about even if it's before marriage.
Dragonheardt
30-07-2007, 07:48
It is wise to do so, but it won't happen and rarely does. Basically what they want to tell you is that sex shouldnt be for fun, but for love, or birth. But as they say this, hipocrisy takes root in that half-naked models are in commercials, there are strip-bars, and most of all, The United States have the most pornographic material in the world and have invested the most in this material. What to do...
What are your thoughts on sex before marriage? Is that the way things should be, or do you think it should be saved until after marriage? Why?
I don't believe in saving sex for after marriage. If I look at my own parents' marriage, it's a perfect example of what I mean. They're totally not fit for one another and aren't happy with one another (which is mainly my father's fault, but that's beside the point ¬.¬).
Marriage doesn't automatically guarantee that that will be the person you will forever love and want to be with. At first you may think it is...but it's not a guarantee. My parents have divorced after 20+ years of marriage, for example, and look how many people get divorced today...
You can find your true love without having to marry them, and in my opinion, as long as you truly love that someone, married or not, sex is okay. It's the ultimate form of intimacy and trust in my opinion.
Here is my opinion about Sex before marriage.
If a couple are marrying type, then why not to hold and make it after marriage.
If you really love eachother let do it after marriage when you are ensured about living together, and if you are not sure that you're going to marry, it means that oneday you may fall in another love. So let your true love be your first man/girl.
But if a couple want to do it, I have no problem with them. The above statement is what applys for me. I am sure many people think different than me.
I am still virgin at age of 24 and I am not sad about it.
I'll do it just with my wife.
If a couple are marrying type, then why not to hold and make it after marriage.
If you really love eachother let do it after marriage when you are ensured about living together, and if you are not sure that you're going to marry, it means that oneday you may fall in another love. So let your true love be your first man/girl.
I know you're just saying your views on it, but just gonna make a comment on one thing. :)
Expressing views is fun, after all. XD
You say that if you're not sure whether or not you want to get married, it means that you may fall in love with someone else later. One comment I want to make about this, is, not everyone wants to get married - personally, marriage scares me off, for the reasons Dusk said earlier in this thread. I won't want to marry anyone at any quick rate, even if I'm in love with them...I'd feel much more secure living with them for years (as then you can see what they're like "at home", being together a lot in the same house, etc, if you know what I mean) before I even THINK or consider marriage at all.
Some people are not as pessimistic about marriage as I am, so for them it might be true that if they don't want to marry them, maybe they're not truly in love. But you don't always need to want to marry someone to think they may be your true love.
Also, marriage does not necessarily guarantee you won't fall in love with someone else. Sometimes, things just happen. Married or not, can't really control that...
I know you're just saying your views on it, but just gonna make a comment on one thing. :)
Expressing views is fun, after all. XD
You say that if you're not sure whether or not you want to get married, it means that you may fall in love with someone else later. One comment I want to make about this, is, not everyone wants to get married
I've mentioned it
If a couple are marrying type
I was talking about couples who are planing to marry.
And you can see that I said about " But if a couple want to do it, I have no problem with them.The above statement is what applys for me." :)
I know that different people think different.
- best regards.
You know...I will have to sadly decline such. I would argue that there are other countries far more indulged in pornographic related materials.
I would have to agree with you. There are many commercials that cannot be played in the US just for the sexual innuendo and/or indecent exposer. (Not necessarily nudity, but a large lack of clothing or certain... movements.) Many countries have a much more lenient view on nudity and sexual innuendo than the US, which probably has some of the strictest laws disallowing such.
Now, on topic.
The choice of sex before marriage is purely up to the couple. I don't believe that any group should tell you that it's wrong or indecent to perform such acts of love before marriage. Myself, I don't plan to get married for a long time yet, and I have no plan to hold off until afterwards. :P Just because you're not married to someone does not mean that you do not love and care for them, you just don't feel the need, or simply wish not to, get married.
I believe that too many people get married before they truly get to know their partner, and do so out of, well, lust. Emotions are unpredictable, and what you feel at the moment for another does not dictate what you will feel for them for the rest of your life. Therefore, for myself at least, sex before marriage is perfectly acceptable and if you and your partner feel ready for it, do it.
Well, if you wait untill marriage to have sex it makes it more intimate and special. But on the other hand.. it might help to get some practice in before you tie the knot.
For me, I don't want to just throw myself into it and then regret it when I meet that one person I want to spend my life with (maybe). So i'm aiming to wait until marriage. But if I meet someone I truly trust and LOVE, then maybe i'd be a little more willing to jump in the sack with them.
Well, For me, I don't need real practice.
I have gathered enough information about it, which all are based upon scientail and psychological researches.
I know both guys and girls, and almost all of their needs.
So, it's ok for me.
I believe in sex before marriage now for many reasons. First of all: Sex is a natural physical process, marriage is a human created concept. To put marriage before sex shows the power of human will but the fact that people "resist temptation" also proves that it is not natural to do so.
I also don't believe in "marriage". I'm fine with a commitment to another person but I don't see why that should involve a ceremoy and such. Wouldn't a monogomous relationship without marriage involve MORE trust?
To put marriage before sex shows the power of human will but the fact that people "resist temptation" also proves that it is not natural to do so.
Well, there are many things that are so natural to do.
Aggress, Kill, Fart when it comes, Selfishness and a lot more things, which are too natural for a human, but we prevent to do them for many reasons.
Human has an ability called will power .
An example : A human, feels like he wants to fart, because it's coming.
There are more people around him. He can do it there, but he goes to other places like bathroom to do it. Does it mean that his action is not natural?
If human could not resist all of his wills, the world was in a great chaos and war.
I don't say, having sex before marriage is bad, or people who do it, are bad.
No, I say I prefer to not to do it, before marriage, and this is not bothering me.
I want to do it with someone who I really love and want to live with her for the whole of my life.
Both guys and girls want their couple to be loyal to them.
I know that someday I will have a girl, who will be my wife.
By knowing that, I thyink if I have sex with someone else, I will be unfaithful in her, even that I don't know who she will be.
Dear lukeman... Human has willpower, in the negative point of temptation.
For some people, temptation has more power, and for some others, will power.
Both are natural. You can read it in biochemical science.
^ Interesting points. I enjoyed reading that one.
I think to some extent you are right - we have will power so can resist certain temptations, and this is just as much a natural process as casual sex. But I believe that most of what humouns do that involves "will power" is triggered by the same survival instincts that encourage casual sex.
For example: Killing. On an individual level, if you kill people, others will see you as a threat, which puts you at higher risk. Survival instinct. On a SPECIES level - why kill other humans if you can kill animals and such instead? Survival instinct.
Even kindness and compassion falls into the same category. Why are we nice to people? Because the people we are nice to are a) less likely to harm us and b) more likely to help and protect us. Working together lacks up for humans lack of natural strength.
Not farting in a public place can just boil down to people wanting to see you in a good light - it all adds up. But "no sex before marriage" is not survival. It can't be because marriage is something we as people dreamed up. And why would we as a sepcies want to limit people to one partner? That lessens the chances of your genes being passed on.
I can, however, think of one explanation to fit my theory. I did have two but as I was typing up number one I lost it and thats gonna bug me.
Population control. In an effort to combat our overpopulation of the planet we come up with ways to limit breeding.
I forget where I was going with this point....may edit this later when it floods back. I don't think I backed up my earlier opinion at all in this post but I do like to understand why we as people dream up these ideas.
-Blossom-
01-06-2008, 07:43
Personally I don't believe sex should necessarily be saved until marriage. It's not like marriage is something that'll always last forever, or that such an environment is healthy for having children. In fact, lots of people should NOT get married and definately have no sex. -.-
However, I myself would not give myself to just anyone, and it would be safe. I have no intention of catching any illnesses, being damaged, or getting pregnant, thank you very much.:)
I do think that many people are being quite careless, from what I've heard and read, resulting in some of the unpleasantries mentioned above, and other things as well. Teen mums with no capable father figure, and so forth...
Sex is rapidly becoming something casual and hazardous. I don't believe that in 10-20 years there will be many people left who consider sex something special that one wishes to share with someone special. Egh, that kills the libido for sure.
RuneRifle
01-06-2008, 12:27
well if u want to have sex and the other one too... why not?
but its better to do it safe :)
Nope sex before marrage..........is wrong! shoudent be allowed!
-Blossom-
03-06-2008, 08:19
Hee hee...well, I guess that means I'm safe from being looked down upon...for now. ^_^
rakusu_klein
04-06-2008, 15:20
I do think people should wait until they're absolutely sure they want eachother.
But be sure to do it save (anti-conception pill(or other related stuff) and condom).
If you wanna reproduce, get married first ^^
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